writing a book isn't easy
Don't ever let anyone tell you that writing a book is easy especially a memoir. Unless you are famous agents and publishers won't touch it with a barge pole or say I love it , BUT, I don't love it enough to risk a libel suit, you haven't built a 'tribe'. After several rejections, you lose count at a certain point, someone finally says I'm prepared to give it a shot. By this time you have come to a point when you automatically press the delete button as soon as the email pops up. Then you think, did that email say yes. You search the deleted folder but, after reading it you still don't get your hopes up. Finally the book is in your hands. The publisher has done their bit but you still need to do yours. You need to get people to read it. Then you worry that it is not good enough that people are going to trash it, and believe me there is always at least one that decides to criticise, or read between the lines and put two and two together and make you out